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Different Path to Recovery

 Brothers and Sisters in Recovery πŸ™ I’ve been doing some thinking about my recovery program and I’ve decided it’s time for me to change things up a little. I love Narcotics Anonymous, and I’m grateful for everything NA has given me. But lately, I’ve felt like my recovery has become a little stale. I’m still committed to recovery, but I believe sometimes we have to be willing to step outside of our comfort zone and look at different ways of strengthening our program. Because of that, I’ve been looking into Recovery Dharma as an alternative or something I can add to what I’m already doing. I’m interested in learning something new, gaining a different perspective, and finding practices that help me continue growing spiritually and emotionally. I’ve learned that recovery isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. What works for one person may not work for another, and that’s okay. The important thing is that we keep moving forward and remain willing to do whatever is necessary to stay clean, ...

HALT: Hungry Angry Lonely and Tired

  Brothers and Sisters in Recovery πŸ™ I want to talk about one of the four things in HALT : Hungry, Angry, Lonely, and Tired. Today, I want to focus on anger . Being self-aware of our anger is extremely important in recovery because anger can lead us down a lot of different roads. We can say something in the heat of the moment that hurts someone we love. We can make a decision we wouldn't normally make. We can get the “fuck-its” and stop caring about the consequences of our actions. Learning to recognize anger before it takes control is a big part of recovery. We have to be willing to pause, take a step back, and honestly ask ourselves, “What's really going on with me right now?” Recovery isn't just about putting down the drugs. It's about learning how to live differently. That means learning how to deal with uncomfortable emotions without allowing them to control our behavior. We don't have to be perfect. We just have to be willing to recognize when we're ...

Recovery is Selfish

  Brothers and Sisters in Recovery πŸ™ Recovery is a very personal thing for me, and I have to be very selfish in my recovery. I have to do the things I need to do to put myself and my recovery first. Because if I put something before my recovery, it will eventually be the first thing I lose. That doesn't mean I don't care about my family, my friends, or the people around me. It means I have to understand that I can't be the person I need to be for anyone else if I'm not taking care of myself and protecting my recovery first. For me, that means staying connected, going to meetings, talking to my sponsor, working the steps, being honest, and staying willing to do the things that keep me moving forward. Recovery requires action. It's not something I can put on the back burner and expect to be there when I need it. Every day gives us another opportunity to make the right choice, learn from yesterday, and keep moving forward. We don't have to have everything figu...

Getting Burned Out

  Brothers and Sisters in Recovery πŸ™ So, the last couple of days I've been struggling a little bit. I've been feeling kind of burned out with recovery. Honestly, it has started to feel monotonous and stale. Sometimes I think we can get so comfortable doing the same thing over and over that we forget recovery is supposed to be about living, growing, and changing. I think I need to change things up. Going to the same meeting every day, every day, every day, every day, every day can start to feel old. So I'm going to get out of my comfort zone and start going to more in-person meetings. I'm going to meet some different people, hear different experiences, and do things a little differently. But here's the important part: just because recovery feels stale doesn't mean I'm quitting recovery. Sometimes we don't need to walk away from the process—we just need to approach it differently. I have to trust the process. When things start feeling difficult, bor...

Radical Acceptance

  Brothers and Sisters in Recovery πŸ™ Radical acceptance is the foundation of recovery. And that goes hand in hand with surrender. Before you can surrender, you have to accept. I accept the fact that I'm an addict. As much as I hate to admit it, I am. I accept the fact that I'm not good at everything, even though I know a little bit about everything. Acceptance doesn't mean that I have to like everything about my life or everything that has happened to me. It simply means that I stop fighting reality. I can't change yesterday, I can't control other people, and I can't always control what happens around me. What I can control is how I respond. For me, surrender means putting down the fight and being willing to do something different. It means admitting when I'm wrong, asking for help when I need it, and being willing to listen instead of always thinking I have the answer. Recovery has taught me that I don't have to have everything figured out today. I...

The Past Doesn’t Define

 Brothers and Sisters in Recovery πŸ™ The past might tell the story of where I’ve been, but it doesn’t define what I do today. I’ve lived a rather— for lack of a better term—checkered past, and honestly, even that probably doesn’t scratch the surface. When people ask me what I’ve done with the last 20 years of my life, I tell them, “I’ve been in prison.” That is a fact about my past, but it is not my identity. Prison changed me. Institutionalization left scars. There are things I still struggle with because of those years, but I refuse to let those experiences become the definition of who I am. I’ve done bad things. I know the people I’ve hurt. I know the bridges I’ve burned. I know there are consequences from my past that I can’t simply erase. But recovery has taught me something incredibly important: I can acknowledge my past without allowing it to control my future. I’ve come a long way. After spending 13 years incarcerated, I came home and within six months I was making $70,000 ...

Life on Life's Terms

 Brothers and Sisters in Recovery πŸ™ Today, I want to talk about life on life’s terms. I have a 13-year-old son who is struggling in school right now. He hasn't been doing the work he's supposed to do, he's been slacking off, and he's having a hard time taking accountability for his actions. There are things he struggles with academically, but there are also remedies and solutions available to help him. As a father, I don't want to immediately punish him without first giving him an opportunity to correct the situation. Sometimes we have to give people the chance to show us what they're capable of doing. I've given him that opportunity, and today it's time to show and prove. He's come up with a plan to start getting things back on track. If he follows through, great. If he doesn't, there will be consequences. He may lose his phone and be grounded until he gets his grades where they need to be. I believe that's fair—not because I want to punish...

Optimism and Pessimism

  Brothers and Sisters in Recovery πŸ™ Sometimes, dealing with life on life’s terms means I have to change my perspective. In a simplified way, I have two choices: I can be optimistic, or I can be pessimistic. If I choose pessimism, everything becomes a problem. Things aren’t going the way I want, and before long I’m dissatisfied, frustrated, and angry. But when I choose optimism, I can look at the same situation differently. I can choose to see the cup as half full instead of half empty. Take today, for example. I have an appointment and I need to make a two-hour drive to get to an NA meeting. I could sit here and think, “This is going to suck. I’m going to be stuck in the car for two hours dealing with traffic.” Or I can look at it differently. I can look forward to going to my meeting, seeing some old friends, and being surrounded by people who understand this journey. I also know that at my appointment, I’m going to get the medication I need. I’m not exactly thrilled about g...